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Enlightened
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09/03/10 01:30 PM


Difficulty Separating Wanting from Impulses
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I have a very strong connection with a girl I've known since I was very young.

I love this girl, and that will never change. I don't need anything more or less out of my relationship with her. It's unconditional, and I'll take what I can get.

That said, I find myself trying to find ways to push our relationship to a romantic one, and I'm having trouble understanding whether this is just a mental need, or an actual impulse.

I will say that the universe gives me signs of encouragement to pursue all the time. It happens quite regularly.

I'd like to just accept our relationship for what it is as a friendship and move on, but I feel as though there's a more powerful force telling me not to quit, and it sends me reminders that always seem to come right when I'm ready to accept and move on.

Can anyone else relate to this or give me some insight?

Surrender to the flow. - Phish


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Light_wings
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09/03/10 07:48 PM


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Re: Difficulty Separating Wanting from Impulses
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hi! has anything romantic ever happened between you in the past?
i can relate to this.... i am currently in a friendship/relationship back to friendship state with someone who i have only known a year, but from day one our connection was so strong. we recently ended up taking the friendship to the next level, and things were going great, he wanted more and i played it cool saying lets see what happens, then i told him how i felt and that yes i want something more, but now he has cooled off, asking for time as he no longer knows what he wants, i am giving him time, as my heart is saying he does like me and does want more, but my mind in the mean time is over thinking telling me to give up, thats when i get signs saying be patient you are ment to be together!! its a very hard challenge (read my post "searching in the dark")
all i can suggest to you is test the waters..... i did. i was the first to make a move, we spent many times harmlessly flirting with each other,and eventually when i realised i wanted more i simply tried my luck at a party we were at together,(that way if i was rejected i could blame the alcohol ) but just by making an effort of physical contact (touch the arm but making it last longer than what was called for in the situation, and also a bit softer than how you would touch a friend on the arm!) and then waited for a response which i got ( same touch back to me)
i hope this helps you..... i came on here to read if i had replies, and i believe this is a sign for me encouraging me to stay strong and be patient!
love and light
xxxlight_wingsxxx


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Enlightened
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09/04/10 02:23 PM


Re: Difficulty Separating Wanting from Impulses
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I think that, since I know my feelings will always remain the same towards her, perhaps my job is to keep treating it as I have been.

If it's meant to be, it will blossom.

In the meantime, she just left home to go back to school, and I'm very much enjoying the space that's been created in my life for new things to emerge.

I do miss her, though.

Surrender to the flow. - Phish


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Light_wings
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09/05/10 11:51 AM


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Re: Difficulty Separating Wanting from Impulses
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there is your answer then
love and light
xxxlight_wingsxxx


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