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Thedreamer
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a weird connection
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Hi everyone! I am new to this forum and I guess I joined because I wanted to see if anyone else has had a similar experience to me or could help me figure out my situation.

There is this guy that about 4 years ago I saw in my class and immediately I fell for him. Now at this time I thought love at first sight was complete bs and could not understand it. But when I saw him I immediately felt some connection with him. It was like I knew him from before. The school year ended and I thought I would never see him again. But soon enough, I saw him at a mall in my city and not on campus. I could not believe my eyes. I liked him but I didn't know him so I left it as a silly crush. Fast forward to almost a year later, I find out his name and that he just recently became friends with a few of my acquaintances (by this time, I'd been seeing him randomly everywhere which is why I couldn't stop thinking about him). At this point, I'm thinking perhaps the universe is trying to tell me that he's the one. And I really felt like he was. I realized that I actually saw him in my dream before I saw him in real life a couple years ago after I had a similar dream but this time I recognized his face.

(Side note: I get premonition dreams for important people in my life or certain events that will happen with me.)

But then, I get a dream with him and in it he gets a girlfriend. In real life, I also find out he gets a girlfriend. Keep in mind, I've never talked to him yet. And so I decide to forget him, but because I keep seeing him in random places, he's gotten to know my face and I'm sure he knew I liked him. So I try to forget him and i actually stop thinking about him that much until a few months later, he shows up in another one of my classes. And thinking that he had a girlfriend I tried not to look at him or anything. But because he was friends with my acquaintance, they sat near me. By the 3rd or 4th lecture he came and actually sat next to me. I was super nervous and intimidated by him because my feelings weren't fully gone and I was confused because I thought he had a girlfriend. Turns out he didn't anymore and he gave me subtle hints that maybe he liked me but he never actually talked to me. So because of that and also because I have never been in a relationship before, I wasn't ready to admit that someone could like me. And then eventually he gave up and I get it, I missed my chance. I stopped thinking about him eventually until a few months ago, I started seeing him in random places again. I'm talking randomly at the bus station and once my car was actually behind his car on a random road (I recognized him in the car while he was turning)! How does that even happen, I really don't understand. And during that time I had a dream that again he was with another girl and in this dream, he was trying to show me that he had someone else whereas I was just trying to tell him that I didn't care (and the next day I found out he has another girlfriend). Then it stopped and I didn't see him for 2-3 months. Now again, he's in my class (and I thought he graduated!) and I know he has a girlfriend and it's not only awkward for me, but i can feel it's awkward for him too.

I'm fed up of this constant thing where I have to meet him, and then my heart goes back and forth and I start having feelings for him again when I know I can't. I know he doesn't feel the same way because obviously he's with someone else. I don't understand why I keep seeing him again and again and the timing is always off. I guess I have some lesson to learn with him but I honestly can't think of anything. Even if there was a lesson to be learned, I don't know how that would happen because him and I would never talk to each other. Is there any advice as to how I should tackle this situation? Is he supposed to be some karmic relationship, or a soulmate or something along those lines because I don't even know anymore. I can't even wrap my head around why it keeps happening to me when I'm trying to move on. The part that annoys me the most about this situation is that I don't even really know him. But at the same time, I feel like I've known him forever. (And no it's not lust!) I don't know exactly why I'm posting this or what advice I'm really looking for, but I just wanted to let this out now. I've been dealing with it for too long.


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Goldenserenity
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Re: a weird connection
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Hello, Saw and read your post, and I wish there was something I could say that would help you. I did notice you said " Is he supposed to be some karmic relationship, or a soulmate or something along those lines..." and I immediately thought He's not supposed to be anything. Maybe there could be a potential relationship of some kind, but who knows?
In order to start a friendship, one must speak to the person. Small talk is sufficient in the beginning, and once the ice has been broken, then a more meaningful discussion can occur. Relationships develop over time, even if it's meant to be. Nothing in life is set in stone. Like I mentioned earlier, there could be a potential, but without any kind of action from you, the energy will dissipate. I do believe that before we incarnate into this or any life time, there is a general plan. For instance, you and he may have planned to be with each other. There can be many routes taken to get to where you need to be in order to enter a relationship, but if you fail to do one thing or another, the path will take a different turn. Do I make sense? I hope so!
Next time you see this person, say hello. It's ok that he has a girlfriend. You can still speak to him. Make quirky comments regarding how you seem to bump into him, so you thought you would take the opportunity to say hi and get to know him a bit. Something along that line.
Take some sort of action if you still have a desire to know him. Start as a friend and let it bloom.

Much success to you in all you do!!

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Jhonny2456
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Re: a weird connection
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^^^ this is true.

Horoscopes are not really a reason to base life's decision on them. A long distance relationship is not easy but on the other hand as long as both are open and sincere to each other they can work out some time.

A good page to know more about astrology is astrosofa.com there you find more about astrology, ascendants, zodiacs and the lot. Specially ascendants.

While I personally don't think a Star from far far away has the power to influence my life in a way some people claim.


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Thedreamer
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Re: a weird connection
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Yes that is true. I'm constantly caught between if it's meant to be it will happen and just to go for it because I'm afraid I'm going to mess up whatever could happen. But then again, if I live in fear I guess I'll never take another step. So yeah you're right I probably should just start some small talk. Now I just have to bring up my courage to do that somehow Thanks for your answer it really helps!


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Thedreamer
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Re: a weird connection
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Yeah i totally understand. I don't necessarily believe that stars have a complete influence but it's not something I can readily dismiss either (because i've seen some stuff come true which is really weird). Thanks for your input really helps!


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Goldenserenity
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Re: a weird connection
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I really think you will do fine with this, and don't see how you can mess it up.
I'm a firm believer in if it's meant to be, it will be, but at the same time I think that some sort of energy needs to go into it to help fuel the situation.
For instance, if someone comes knocking on the door for you, and you ignore it, whoever it was will go away. If that same person returns back and knocks on your door again, and you ignore it, the person will go away again. It may have been meant to be, but if you don't answer the call, then there is no way for it to transpire. Maybe they will come back or maybe they won't. By not answering, the flow of energy was stopped. That's my take on it anyhow.

Keep us posted!

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Thedreamer
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Re: a weird connection
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Yeah you're right it's not just up to destiny but also up to me. I did see him today but didn't get a chance to approach. He seems to know that I liked him though because somehow both him and his friend started looking at me together after I heard him say something along the lines of "she likes me". Needless to say, I was confused. Now I have no idea what he responded to when his friend asked him if he liked me and as far as I know he has a girlfriend. So it's awkward for me even to approach because what if he just likes the attention and doesn't actually like me, then I'm just going to be embarrassed. Not really sure because he did come sit next to me today which says the opposite. I think i'll see where it goes next time I see him. He's just very hard to read and this is all very frustrating.


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Milos
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Re: a weird connection
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Jay... how bad is it for you to be embarassed? Did it ever happen? If not, I'd recommend going for it intentionally. No thing is as bad as the fear of the thing itself...

Penny, you're beautiful. Never seen your photo

Milos


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