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Holky
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01/13/16 08:50 PM


Please send healing vibes
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Hello, tomorrow my boyfriend has a hearing to try to get 50% custody with his 4 year old son. Please send healing vibes as we are being tested against a deceptive woman who unfortunately is mentally ill and wants to do everything in her power to keep my boyfriend and his son separate. Thank you so much. 💞


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Serenity01
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01/13/16 10:56 PM


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Re: Please send healing vibes
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Hi Holky, Done.


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SeraphSephirot
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01/13/16 11:04 PM


Re: Please send healing vibes
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Sending


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Serenity01
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01/14/16 01:28 AM


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Re: Please send healing vibes
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I see that you're new SeraphSephirot, welcome.


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Ocean
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01/14/16 10:07 AM


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Re: Please send healing vibes
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I'm happy to hold intention for the highest and best outcome for the child. But I'm not comfortable taking the word of a stranger online. It's not possible to know what is best for this child based on one sentence posted in a spiritual forum. Perhaps it is she or her boyfriend who is "mentally ill". We simply cannot know. What is the diagnosis of the mother's mental illness? Is she getting treatment? Or is this just a run-of-the-mill accusation to bolster the father's side? Perhaps neither parent is a good parent. Maybe the mother has good reason to keep the child from his father. We simply do not know.

We simply do not know! So I will pray that the outcome serves this child's best and highest interests. I'll add my energy to knowing only good for the child, without choosing sides.

Lastly, the idea of "being tested" is not something I agree with in this context. It's such a childish concept, used by adults who think it will make them appear wise and mature. The Universe (God/-dess/Source/Spirit/etc.) doesn't play games with us, doesn't trick us and doesn't "test" us. This sounds like a personal war and I'm not interested in being someone's soldier. I'm only interested in what's truly best for the child and humans with vested interests can seldom know that truth.


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Holky
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01/14/16 10:29 AM


Re: Please send healing vibes
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Ocean, I came here for support... not for you to be doubtful. If you don't want to trust what a stranger says online, then why are you on a message board?


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Holky
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01/14/16 06:02 PM


Re: Please send healing vibes
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Thank you very much to those who sent positive vibes. So far things have gone well.


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Ocean
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01/14/16 11:04 PM


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Re: Please send healing vibes
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Holky, you posted, I responded.

Your question to me is odd in the extreme. Are you saying that everyone online (or at least this forum) should trust everything said by everyone? Because if you are, that's not just scary, that's crazy. Most people are on forums to exchange ideas, to discuss varying views, to share knowledge and experiences. Being on a forum should never, ever mean there is some bizarre automatic trust of everyone. Until I saw your post to me I couldn't imagine anyone advocating such a ridiculous position.

I offered my honest opinion and thoughts based on my professional and life experiences. And in fact, I gave support to the person who actually needs it: the child. It's clear that you don't see that, which is disturbing. This problem between your boyfriend and his ex is about the child, not about you. Again, that you don't see that is disturbing.




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Holky
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01/15/16 00:46 AM


Re: Please send healing vibes
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Get off your patronizing high horse, Ocean. I just came here for support not judgement. As a family unit we are all affected by problems together as one.


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Ocean
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01/15/16 10:50 AM


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Re: Please send healing vibes
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You asked for something specific without giving any details or evidence. The only right thing for anyone with even a shred of critical thinking skills is to send appropriate good energy to the child for an outcome serving his best and highest interests. It's very telling -- and surprising -- that you aren't grateful for the good vibes going to the right place for the right reasons.

If you wanted support for you, you should have asked for that, rather than for a particular outcome involving other people. You did not ask for support for yourself. You made accusations about another person who isn't here to defend herself. You asked for help for your boyfriend getting 50% custody, yet how are we to know that's the right thing for the child? Even if you believe it's right, that doesn't make it so. Even if your heart is in the right place, you should still be able to see that creating an energetic environment for this little boy's very best interests is the most spiritually responsible thing to do.

Your anger and defensiveness speak volumes.

Btw... My son was in a similar situation. All I ever prayed for was whatever was best for my grandson. It was never about my son or his ex or anything or anyone other than my grandson. My friends prayed the same way, knowing the truth of only good for my grandson. I believe it helped in the right way for the right reasons and my son got custody with his ex having modest visitation. Even though I believed my grandson's mother was a terrible influence, going that route spiritually would not have been helpful. I focused only on the child -- my grandson -- not on my son or his ex or on a specific outcome because only God (the Universe/Spirit/Source, etc.) can truly know the right outcome.

And just so you know, I spent many, many years as a clinical therapist, so I was acutely and painfully aware of my ex-daughter-in-law's mental health problems (BPD). But that still wasn't where I should have focused my energies at the time. My prayers for her well-being were separate, and I still don't pray for anything except whatever serves her best interests. It's not up to me to determine what's best for her (or anyone, for that matter!).

So the point is, I didn't pray for some kind of win-lose thing in a game, I prayed for whatever was truly best for my grandson. Please, Holky, if you don't understand from an impersonal POV, then at least take a page from my personal book and focus only on what's best for the little boy.






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